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Raising your voice usually accomplishes nothing but noise. 

Raising your voice and demanding obedience seldom accomplishes your intended objective.  Find ways to personally connect.  For example, take their face in your hands and say. “Look at my eyes and listen to me.”  Then firmly give the instruction you need to give.  A firm voice is not a yelling voice.  You need to connect to get through to the young mind.

 

Make a connection by being a kid and thinking as a kid.

Find moments every day to have a meaningful connection with your child at his or her level. The more moments, the better! This means leaving adult distractions like the cell phone on the table, ignoring the ring or the text alert, and getting down to their level—doing something with them that they deem to be important. You want to communicate in non-verbal terms that your child is the most important person in the world to you. Distractions like television or cell phones communicate that they are not that important. Five to ten minutes of focused time doing something they feel is important assures your child that you really do care. A few minutes go along way!

Be positive when giving correction. 

If you need to correct your child, never do so in anger.  Never put them down.  Don’t stomp on their little self-esteem.   Remember, they are learning behavior just like you are!   An excellent way to discipline or make corrections is to sit right next to your child and put your arm around him or her as you are speaking.   Your child needs to feel your love even while you are correcting them.  You want to demonstrate that regardless of the issue at hand, you truly care and love them.  Your hand on your child’s shoulder helps your child listen more carefully.

Make-believe is fun. Join in the adventure!

Embrace your child’s make-believe friends. After all, you also had your make-believe friends when you were his or her age. Join in the adventures your child creates. It is okay to be a kid and “play along” with their world. Don’t just tell them to go play—engage in the game with them. Join them in making up new adventures and situations. Enjoy a tea party or a battle with robots. A few minutes living where your child lives will do you both a lot of good. This builds their confidence and creative thinking skills and gives you a wonderful break from the realities of life you are facing.

Use bedtime to probe into your child’s mind. 

When it is time for bed, try lying down next to your child, holding their hand, and asking them about their day. Listen to what is on their mind. Probe to bring out the good things they have experienced. Listen for what is bothering them or causing them fear. Give your child at least five minutes a day when they are doing the talking and you are doing the listening. After this discussion, close by praying for your child and help him relate to God who cares for his or her concern.