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Parenting is dynamic

Being a parent is dynamic.  What works well today might not work tomorrow.  A good parent is capable of adjusting to change and making adjustments in what is needed in light of new realities.  In order to navigate parenting you need to know your core values–and then stick to those values.

These values must be your compass.  Know if the worldview of your culture is not in line with your values.  Be intentional in instilling what is valued to you in the heart of your child.  Never assume that they will “just get it.” They will not!  You, as the parent, need to teach your child in the way that he or she should go.   Your direct engagement in the child’s life gives comfort and security to your child

“When I was just about your age…”

Telling stories with meaning as a parent are quite easy. You need to OBSERVE, LISTEN, RELATE, RECALL, and CONCLUDE.  Here is what I did as a parent when telling stories to my two girls:

  • Observed what my child was dealing with that day.  This was foundational for using my experience to create a story.
  • Listened to what my child was expressing. My kids told me what they needed to hear.  Yours will, too.
  • Related to my child’s situation by saying, “Once, when I was about your age, I had a similar experience…”.  This began my story from my life.
  • Recalled with details, which helped my story come to life.  Painting a vivid word picture, using mood, colors, time of year, weather, smells, circumstances, other people who were involved, etc. helped make the story real. Details transformed my story into a life-learning adventure.
  • Concluded by summing up what I learned.

Connect the lesson you learned to their experience.   Don’t be surprised if your child says to you a few days later, “Tell me that story again about when you were a kid….”

Turn your Life experience into Adventure Stories!

Your life may seem mundane to you but to your child your life stories can be unforgettable memories for your child.  Your stories can teach and transform the thinking of your child.  Keep the story simple.  Make the situation an adventure. Close the story with a lesson learned.  The Adventures of Andy Ant started as adventures to help my oldest daughter learn a life lesson.  You may not feel you have anything to share but a simple experience can turn into a transforming lesson for your child.

It is time for community involvement!

Look for opportunities to do something with your child that results in helping others.  If your child is old enough to be in school you can find meaningful ways to do things together that result in others being touched.


Be creative but be intentional so that your child’s experiences are teaching moments. There are many needs to be met and each experience can teach something different.  Help clean up a park, volunteer to work in a soup kitchen, serve a meal to senior citizens, attend a civic meeting, visit an animal shelter, volunteer time to help an elderly person by washing windows, pulling weeds, cleaning out a storage shed, etc.  The goal is to work with your child to meet a need.


Mom’s not feeling well….


I heard Mom tell Dad this morning at breakfast that she still didn’t feel well.  I think she’s in pain.  I wonder what’s going on. She had a doctor’s appointment last week but I don’t know what she learned.   She’s been sleeping more lately.  When I came home from school the other day, she was sleeping on the couch and never heard Andy and me come in.  Even when it’s not time to be in bed, she’s sleeping.  I asked my brother what was wrong with Mom, and he just said that her doctor was concerned about her.  This gives me a sick feeling in my stomach.  I wonder what’s going on with her.