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Praise your child to others, in front of your child.

The next time you are out with friends and your son or daughter are with you, express how proud you are of something that your child recently accomplished or did.  Brag just a bit so your son or daughter hears you telling someone else.   Your child needs to hear you telling others of his/her character or achievement.  Going public like this affirms just how proud you are of your child.  At least once a week make it a goal to speak praise about your child.  Your child need to know you are proud of him/her.

 

No excuses! Your child’s behavior is a reflection on your parental leadership.

Caring parents take responsibility for the results of their child’s behavior.  For many parents this is a challenge. Life is busy and often kids end up with the left-overs.  It is often easier to offer an excuse or blame someone else or something else for a child’s behavior.  Effective parents realize that failure or success is due to their capability to lead correctly and take responsibility as a parent.

 

Write it, don’t just say it!

Verbally expressing a compliment is important but writing a compliment down and giving it to a child is much more powerful. Here is a suggestion.  Each week write a short one or two sentence note of praise to your child on a full-size sheet of paper.   Write at his or her level so it is meaningful to them. Praise your child for something he or she did or a characteristic that is noteworthy.  Create some art on the page!  If you do one written compliment a week you child will have 52 positive affirmations in writing in just a year.   This is the beginning of your legacy to your child.

Have you complemented your child in writing this week?

My grandson’s first grade teacher prepared a year-end gift for each child in her class:  A personalized compliment book.  Every child in class was instructed to write a sentence or two on a piece of paper expressing a good quality of each classmate. They added illustrative art typical of a first grader. The teacher then combined all the papers for each child and created a personalized book of compliments for each one.  The introductory page was to each child, expressing hopes and dreams and how glad the teacher was for getting to know each child. Each page expresses something special.  The best is affirmed.  Every page makes a lasting impression

Ponder the implications of your role!

Your ability to lead as a parent has a direct impact on the results you want to achieve in your children.  What are you doing today to insure the outcome you want to see realized? Effective parenting requires quality time AND quantity time.  The more time you spend with your child the more progress you will see toward the outcome you want.  Your child deserves TIME with you!