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“When I was just about your age…”

Telling stories with meaning as a parent are quite easy. You need to OBSERVE, LISTEN, RELATE, RECALL, and CONCLUDE.  Here is what I did as a parent when telling stories to my two girls:

  • Observed what my child was dealing with that day.  This was foundational for using my experience to create a story.
  • Listened to what my child was expressing. My kids told me what they needed to hear.  Yours will, too.
  • Related to my child’s situation by saying, “Once, when I was about your age, I had a similar experience…”.  This began my story from my life.
  • Recalled with details, which helped my story come to life.  Painting a vivid word picture, using mood, colors, time of year, weather, smells, circumstances, other people who were involved, etc. helped make the story real. Details transformed my story into a life-learning adventure.
  • Concluded by summing up what I learned.

Connect the lesson you learned to their experience.   Don’t be surprised if your child says to you a few days later, “Tell me that story again about when you were a kid….”

Turn your Life experience into Adventure Stories!

Your life may seem mundane to you but to your child your life stories can be unforgettable memories for your child.  Your stories can teach and transform the thinking of your child.  Keep the story simple.  Make the situation an adventure. Close the story with a lesson learned.  The Adventures of Andy Ant started as adventures to help my oldest daughter learn a life lesson.  You may not feel you have anything to share but a simple experience can turn into a transforming lesson for your child.

It is time for community involvement!

Look for opportunities to do something with your child that results in helping others.  If your child is old enough to be in school you can find meaningful ways to do things together that result in others being touched.

 

Be creative but be intentional so that your child’s experiences are teaching moments. There are many needs to be met and each experience can teach something different.  Help clean up a park, volunteer to work in a soup kitchen, serve a meal to senior citizens, attend a civic meeting, visit an animal shelter, volunteer time to help an elderly person by washing windows, pulling weeds, cleaning out a storage shed, etc.  The goal is to work with your child to meet a need.

 

Praise your child to others, in front of your child.

The next time you are out with friends and your son or daughter are with you, express how proud you are of something that your child recently accomplished or did.  Brag just a bit so your son or daughter hears you telling someone else.   Your child needs to hear you telling others of his/her character or achievement.  Going public like this affirms just how proud you are of your child.  At least once a week make it a goal to speak praise about your child.  Your child need to know you are proud of him/her.

 

No excuses! Your child’s behavior is a reflection on your parental leadership.

Caring parents take responsibility for the results of their child’s behavior.  For many parents this is a challenge. Life is busy and often kids end up with the left-overs.  It is often easier to offer an excuse or blame someone else or something else for a child’s behavior.  Effective parents realize that failure or success is due to their capability to lead correctly and take responsibility as a parent.