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It is time for community involvement!

Look for opportunities to do something with your child that results in helping others.  If your child is old enough to be in school you can find meaningful ways to do things together that result in others being touched.

 

Be creative but be intentional so that your child’s experiences are teaching moments. There are many needs to be met and each experience can teach something different.  Help clean up a park, volunteer to work in a soup kitchen, serve a meal to senior citizens, attend a civic meeting, visit an animal shelter, volunteer time to help an elderly person by washing windows, pulling weeds, cleaning out a storage shed, etc.  The goal is to work with your child to meet a need.

 

Praise your child to others, in front of your child.

The next time you are out with friends and your son or daughter are with you, express how proud you are of something that your child recently accomplished or did.  Brag just a bit so your son or daughter hears you telling someone else.   Your child needs to hear you telling others of his/her character or achievement.  Going public like this affirms just how proud you are of your child.  At least once a week make it a goal to speak praise about your child.  Your child need to know you are proud of him/her.

 

No excuses! Your child’s behavior is a reflection on your parental leadership.

Caring parents take responsibility for the results of their child’s behavior.  For many parents this is a challenge. Life is busy and often kids end up with the left-overs.  It is often easier to offer an excuse or blame someone else or something else for a child’s behavior.  Effective parents realize that failure or success is due to their capability to lead correctly and take responsibility as a parent.

 

Write it, don’t just say it!

Verbally expressing a compliment is important but writing a compliment down and giving it to a child is much more powerful. Here is a suggestion.  Each week write a short one or two sentence note of praise to your child on a full-size sheet of paper.   Write at his or her level so it is meaningful to them. Praise your child for something he or she did or a characteristic that is noteworthy.  Create some art on the page!  If you do one written compliment a week you child will have 52 positive affirmations in writing in just a year.   This is the beginning of your legacy to your child.

Have you complemented your child in writing this week?

My grandson’s first grade teacher prepared a year-end gift for each child in her class:  A personalized compliment book.  Every child in class was instructed to write a sentence or two on a piece of paper expressing a good quality of each classmate. They added illustrative art typical of a first grader. The teacher then combined all the papers for each child and created a personalized book of compliments for each one.  The introductory page was to each child, expressing hopes and dreams and how glad the teacher was for getting to know each child. Each page expresses something special.  The best is affirmed.  Every page makes a lasting impression