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You are called parent, not be a dictator!

It is tempting at times to “lay the law down” and demand your kids “do what they are told.”   To get your child’s ownership on a decision you need to make, you need help them take ownership of the decision.   Allow them to feel that the decision is theirs– even though you clearly know what the outcome must be.  Keep your demands to a minimum.

Engage your child in the process of making good decisions.  Help your child learn how to formulate options and draw reasonable conclusions.  Work together so that the child begins to see how you think. Engagement helps your child begin to understand wise decision making processes.

 

It is test time again!

This week I’m taking a bunch of tests to see if I am learning anything.  I wish school never gave kids tests.  It seems the tests always test me on what I forgot.  Dad says I need to prepare for the tests and not worry so much.  Easy for him to say since he’s not being tested!  I’m good in math.  There are so many ways to get the same answer.  I have trouble remembering things that are taught in history.  I like science, especially when we study about insects.   The more I learn about Andy’s world, the better I understand him.  He’s an amazing little creature.  He’s smart.  I wonder if he could pass the tests I have to take this week? Wonder how much he really knows?

 

Your mission is to be a vision caster.

What is your vision and dream for your child?  Just like you, your child was born for a purpose. Each of your children are fearfully and wonderfully made.  You as the parent have the responsibility to help your child realize his portent and begin moving toward the vision you have for him.  Without effective parenting, vision is lost and life becomes empty.  You as the parent are to cast a vision for what can be and then help your little one take the needed steps in order to achieve the vision.

 

Halloween week!

 

This is a big week.  Halloween is always fun. All the kids in school dress up and we put on quite a parade. I have been thinking about what to be this year for weeks.  I have trouble making up my mind.  What seems like a cool idea one day is not that good of an idea the next.  I decided last Friday to be a storm trooper. I intended to work on the costume over the weekend but ended up having to do other things.  Now I have to make the costume in one day!  Andy told me yesterday he was going to dress up as a boy like me.   Imagine an ant dressing up as a fourth-grade boy!   That will be strange.  Andy is looking forward to going door to door asking for candy with me.  He knows he will get plenty!

 

 

Parenting is dynamic

Being a parent is dynamic.  What works well today might not work tomorrow.  A good parent is capable of adjusting to change and making adjustments in what is needed in light of new realities.  In order to navigate parenting you need to know your core values–and then stick to those values.

These values must be your compass.  Know if the worldview of your culture is not in line with your values.  Be intentional in instilling what is valued to you in the heart of your child.  Never assume that they will “just get it.” They will not!  You, as the parent, need to teach your child in the way that he or she should go.   Your direct engagement in the child’s life gives comfort and security to your child